Show #95: My guest on the show is Duana Welch, Author of “Love Factually”
What you think you need in a man, but don’t:
When a woman is searching for her ideal man (who she would ultimately want to marry), she looks for certain things in a man that she considers “must haves”. But what a lot of women don’t realize is, that what you think you need in a man, is what you actually don’t….and it’s what could be keeping you single!
And here’s a few things that you really don’t need in a man:
Every shared interest
You may have some shared interests with the man you’re dating, but it’s impossible to have every shared interest. And science tells us, that you don’t need every shared interest with the man you’re dating.
If it’s something that is so important to you, then it’s really a core value and that’s something that you must be on the same page about.
Need a “cool” man
You don’t need a “cool” man, as in the type of man with an “edge” or a “bad boy”.
What you really need is a man who is kind and respectful, as that’s what’s going to determine if the relationship is going to be a success or not.
Need someone who respects your independence
You may be independent in your personal life and career, but if you operate under the notion of, “I don’t need a man, I can do everything on my own”, you will never find a man who is your partner in life and love.
The way real life in a relationship works, is that a woman and a man are interdependent with each other. That they support one another and are there for each other through the ups and downs in life.
Need love & sexual attraction only
While you need love and sexual attraction, that’s not all you need.
You also need to have a lot in common, mutual love & respect, common values, and a solid foundation of friendship. Those things are move important that just love and sexual attraction.
Need a wealthy man
You don’t need a wealthy man, what you need is a peer who is your equal when it comes to life and values. Which in turn will lead to a reciprocal interdependent relationship with a man who is going to be there for you through thick and thin.
So now it’s time for you to re-evaluate your list of “must haves” in the man you’re looking for. And now you might realize that some of the things on your list, are things you don’t really need!
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