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Online Dating Tips to Get More Men to Contact You!

Online Dating Tips for Women Over 40One of the conundrums with online dating is, quality versus quantity.

What on earth does that mean?

Let me show you how to construct an online dating profile that will get you a flood of men contacting you.

However, the trouble with that though, is twofold:

1) You may well be attracting the wrong type of man.
(although that, of course does depend on what you are looking for)

2) You may get overwhelmed by so many men contacting you that you don’t know where to start.

At the other end of the spectrum, it’s very easy to have a dating profile which attracts no response.

The key question, of course is the happy medium where you get a good amount of the right type of people contacting you on an online dating site, in both the quality and quantity, that you want to give you enough choice.

So, what are the online dating essentials you need to get men to contact you?


1) Photos

Men are visceral. Images are the first thing they’ll respond to. Ideally 4 to 6 good photos of you that are well lit, you can see your face clearly (preferable no sunglasses), you can see your full body (clothed), and where you are smiling.

If you want bucket loads of responses, then post images that are very sexy – plunging necklines, bikini shots etc. You’ll get lots of response, but don’t be surprised if they don’t want a long term relationship!

2) Carefully written profile

Take the time to write your profile and reveal some of the real you. Don’t talk in clichés. Men will respond when you are being genuine and real. You know when something has been written with care and thought.

Those two things really are the building blocks of online dating.

Now as a woman you have 2 choices:

1) Sit back and wait for guys to contact you

2) Actively seek out what you want and contact those guys with short thoughtful messages. I could write a whole essay on this topic alone.

If you want to really take control of your dating, I’d definitely recommend the second option.  If you want to see what is out there and wait for the guy to make the first move, then option 1 is clearly the right one for you. If you do choose option 1, try a set of photos and profile for a week and see what response you get. Then change it a little – maybe change the photos or the profile. You’ll quickly judge the impact of this with the messages you get.

Remember. Have fun and be safe. This is meant to be fun – smile and enjoy it.

About the Author:

caspar-cravenCaspar Craven is the owner of Strictly Dating – the dating site for people who are serious about online dating. Want the 10 step guide for guaranteed success when dating at 40? Get the free guide right here.

by Suzanne Oshima

Suzanne K. Oshima is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach & Founder at Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette. She is also the Founder of Single in Stilettos, which gives women the best dating advice & tips to help them meet, attract & keep the one. Suzanne has been seen on Bravo TV, The Today Show, Good Afternoon America, Inside Edition, BBC Radio, Glamour Magazine, Men’s Health and much more!

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  • I like the idea of changing the photos or pictures. My profile needs updating.

    • Arlett, yes, photos are very key in getting the right men to contact you. Let us know how it goes for you when you change it up! 🙂

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