Show #82: My guest on the show is Duana Welch, Ph.D. & Author of “Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do!”
Duana is a contributor at Psychology Today and at eHarmony. She is also a professor of psychology at Austin, Texas Universities.
Here’s why you can’t make a man love you…
Usually when a woman asks the question of, “How can I make a man love me?”, it’s usually when she’s is in a relationship that’s completely one-sided.
The issue is, it’s impossible to make a man see that you’re perfect for each other, if he’s just not feeling the same way about you.
Just remember, love is reciprocal and you can’t make a man feel something that he doesn’t.
The most important thing to remember is, a man can win a woman over, but a woman can’t win a man over…it’s biologically proven!
Here’s what men usually look for in a woman:
- A man wants a woman who is fertile and faithful
- A man wants a woman who is hard to get and a little bit of a challenge
Here’s what women usually look for in a man:
- A woman looks for provision and protection
It’s important to remember, when a woman runs toward a man, it comes across as I’m easy and no one else wants me, and that’s not what’s going to make a man love you.
When it comes to sex, you shouldn’t have sex with a man until:
- He says he loves you
- He proves it to you. He introduces you to his family and he talks about the future with you.
- He asks you not to see other men and wants to be exclusive
Men don’t fall in love without dopamine. If you have sex too soon, their dopamine levels will drop and they’ll lose interest.
Once you have sex, it’s very difficult to take it back and say you’re not ready. It can put a wrench in the relationship and it can ruin the relationship.
The most important thing to remember is, you can’t make a man feel something that he’s not. Love is reciprocal and you can’t control his feelings, you can only control your own feelings.
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