Show #65: My guest on the show is Abiola Abrams, Passionate Living Coach & Author of, “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self Love” at AbiolaTV.com.
Abiola helps extraordinary women realize their juiciest lives, by tapping into the power of self-love. She is all about sharing the secrets of living with more passion and positive energy. She specializes in self-worth, self esteem, love, dating, relationships, career creativity, body love and body acceptance.
How to Overcome Insecurities When it Comes to Dating:
When it comes dating, everyone has insecurities. If you don’t think you do, you’re probably not being honest with yourself.
There’s a notion that you have to be “perfect”, in order to attract the right man, which just isn’t true. When you believe that you have to be perfect, it can mean that you’re putting up a mask or a wall.
It’s important to know that men are really attracted to your true self. Your authentic self, with your vulnerability and imperfections. When you put up a mask, you’re actually repelling away relationships, because you’re not being your true self.
Men like women who are self confident and who know their self worth.
Men don’t like when women are insecure about their looks, age or weight. If you go out on a first date thinking these negative thoughts about yourself, then you’re defeating yourself before you even get started.
You need to “fill” the holes of your insecurities, so you can be your best self. Just remember, he can’t love you, if you don’t love yourself.
How can a woman get over these insecurities?
Make a list of all the great things and compliments that someone says to you.
- List the Things that Make You Look Different
Accentuate what makes you look different and beautiful. Own it and capitalize on it.
- Acceptance of What You Are Right Now
Owning who you are and don’t be apologetic about it.
- Be Grateful
Be grateful for who you are and what you have.
- If You’re Attracting the Wrong Men, Then Look Within
If you’re attracting the wrong men, then you need to look within. The right men are attracted to women who are comfortable in their own skin.
- Don’t Hang Out With Negative People
Be around positive people.
Once you can overcome your insecurities and become more confident when it comes to dating, is when you’re going to attract the right man.
If you want to know the secrets to attracting & keeping the right man, then check out our video series: The Secrets on Meet, Attract & Keep the Right Man!