Thank you for being my coach, you’ve completely changed my love life!
After years of failed relationships in my 30’s, I was truly beginning to think that I was just destined to spend the rest of my life alone. A couple of years ago I turned 40.
That was a reality check for me, because I realized that I didn’t want to die alone (I know that sounds so awful, but it’s the truth!).
I felt like there was no hope for me to get into a loving relationship with the right man. Almost every man dated, either wasn’t serious about having a long term relationship, or worse they all just wanted to date younger women.
I tried all the dating advice from countless experts and read dating self-help books, but nothing was working and I didn’t know why.
And then that’s when I met you. You truly listened to me and you cared. You showed me that there is hope and that it wasn’t too late for me to meet the right man and get into long term relationship, but that I just needed the personal guidance to help me through the process.
Now, I realize why all the advice from all the other experts didn’t work for me. You helped me uncover my past relationship patterns which were actually preventing me from getting into a relationship, even though I kept saying that I wanted one!
I can’t thank you enough. You completely changed my life and how I dated in a positive way. I’m so happy to share with you that I am now in the most amazing long term relationship with Devin.
He treats me like no other man has. He’s my best friend and I can talk to him for hours. When we’re with each other, I don’t even notice the time pass or other people around. He supports me through everything and is always there for me, even when bad things happen. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
I honestly feel like the luckiest woman in the world because I never thought I would find love like this in my 40’s!
And the best part of our relationship is, Devin talks about growing old together and being there for each other until the end…and so now, I truly know I won’t be alone the rest of my life!
Thank you Suzanne, I now know I would have never met him, if it wasn’t for working with you.”
~ Kelsey, 42
New York, NY
“I wholeheartedly and sincerely recommend working with Suzanne Oshima as a coach. She has a wonderful way about her and is a true pleasure to work with.
Before working with Suzanne, I had been online dating on various sites and felt that I was not getting what a wanted: a committed, long-term relationship with a wonderful and loving man.
My feeling is that if things aren’t going the way you want when you keep doing what you’ve always done (and if you’re not getting what you want), then something has to change, or your results will remain the same.
That’s when I hired Suzanne and we began working together.
I was fully ready for a relationship and our work together came at the perfect time. More importantly, I was ready to put in the time and effort that it takes to date until I found the “right one” – and Suzanne was always pushing me forward with encouragement and sound advice in a very grounded way.
I am delighted to say that I am now in a loving, exclusive relationship with a great man. Suzanne’s wisdom and guidance was invaluable.
Thank you, Suzanne!”
~ Beth, 51
“I came to Suzanne at a time in my life when I didn’t know where I was going. I felt lost, frustrated and so sad that I couldn’t figure out what was going on inside me. I knew I needed some sort of help but never knew exactly what kind.
When I say help – I mean help in the matters of “Love”. Here I was thinking “Love” would be so easy to have, find and keep in life. But I struggled and came to a point in my life where I needed to do something about it. I had to change the way I was in love to have love in my life. I was in a 4 year relationship with no future ahead of us and I didn’t know how to get out of it. I was so scared. I was miserable for years and still stayed.
The first and best thing I did was reach out to Suzanne. I wasn’t sure how or what she would do to help me after all I saw two therapists before her; each for a year and neither one of them came to helping me one bit. Suzanne opened my eyes and realized what I was doing to attract all the wrong men in my life.
She realized exactly what was blocking me and why. She came to the root cause of the problem. She identified why I was doing certain things, she recognized what in my past made me create certain beliefs and she knew exactly what to do to help me in unblocking my limiting beliefs.
But most importantly she made me believe in myself again and realize that I do deserve unconditional love.
The next few months of working with Suzanne were a breakthrough for me.
The assignments she provided made me think and go deep down into my soul and search for answers. You think you know how to answer them but it’s different when you actually work on them. Makes you realize how many inner blocks you have and the best part about it is, working thru those blocks with Suzanne who knows exactly the right questions to ask and interpret them.
Suzanne has a talent for knowing how to take your inner blocks, break them and instill confidence and belief inside you so you become empowered and confident about finding your true love.
If you are reading this and have doubts whether you should work with Suzanne or not I strongly encourage you to do so. It will benefit you in ways you can’t even imagine now. But for that you will become stronger, more confident and know exactly what it is you are looking for and want in your life. And that is a beautiful gift you can give yourself.
Suzanne – Thank you so much for making me feel alive again!”
~ Maya, 42
New York, NY
“Before I started working with Suzanne as my coach, I was disappointed, hurt, angry and close to giving up on ever finding a partner. However, I knew I did not want to end up being a 65-year old single lady with 67 cats.
I was willing to change whatever I was doing, that was keeping me single.
Suzanne walked me through my past and helped me see areas that were showing up in my present. Then she reviewed how I was presenting myself to single men – and pointed out areas that sabotaged me.
There were only a few, but they made a HUGE difference.
We also reviewed my online profile including updating my photos. In essence, Suzanne showed me that the person I was portraying online, did not match my in-person personality.
Within days of making changes to my profile, I was on many dates!
In mid November, Dan winked at me, and we have not looked back.
When I ask Dan about where we are going and about our relationship…he says the most kind and loving words: No judgment. No issues.
All the things that I had thought that mattered, really did not matter at all.
The only thing holding me back from receiving love were the judgments I had made about myself.
Suzanne helped me to see the things I could not see – the truth.”
~ Elsie, 58
“I would go out on dates and have had several long term relationships, but none have resulted in marriage. My friends & family couldn’t figure out why, as I they would always tell me, ‘but you’re such a catch, any man would be lucky to have you’. Of course, that really didn’t make me feel better.
I really started to feel like in my 40’s that I really was going to be alone for the rest of my life. And while I wasn’t devastated by any means (because I have a great job, am financially secure and am generally happy)…I still felt like there was something missing in my life. I knew I would be “OK” without a man, but I knew deep down, that I didn’t want to grow old alone!
I decided to join Suzanne’s coaching program and to my surprise, it completely transformed my dating life and my relationships with men. I learned so much about men and why I couldn’t keep a man.
I followed all of her advice, and I am so happy to say, that I am no longer single and I just turned 50 this year! I have finally found a man that treats me the way I knew I deserved to be treated. He is always there for me, and he talks about our future together and us getting married. Who knew I would find true love at 50??”
~ Kim, 50
“Best of greetings from far and abroad Suzanne, My name is Alexander from Norway but living in Denmark.
I just want to let you know it was so liberating to see and hear your interaction with Arica in one of your YouTube videos.
Liberating because you both pinpointed many issues where women need to take more responsibility in the interaction with men – instead of complaining as well as most of the time demand what they want from a man – instead of start giving. Isn’t the simplest definition of love “to give”, so if you want love take some initiative to give some love 😉
All of your mentioned issues go on over here in the Scandinavian countries as well. And having traveled around the world, including the US, here in Denmark, your mentioned issues are even worse – yes worse. You should come here some day – you will be able to see for yourself, as well as create some wealth on the matter.
You are making a wake-up call to all of your fellow sisters and I believe we men also have a lot to learn from you and your findings.
Again, nice to experience you understand the dilemma’s flourishing around and you not only think that it is the guys cockhead doing all the screw-ups in regards to dating.
Please, keep up the great work.
~ Alexander, 49
“Thank you Suzanne for the insights into how men think and how they act when they are genuinely interested in a woman – and how we can expect to be treated in a relationship with a man who genuinely has our best interests at heart.
Through our work together you helped me to see the patterns that have played out in my relationships with males since early childhood and helped me to move into my wonderful new relationship with a different mindset.
The Secrets About Men video series gave me a new insight into the male psyche, which is of course considerably different to that of women. I just had never realised quite how different. Hearing about this firsthand from the male presenters on the series was a real eye-opener.
Once this knowledge was understood and assimilate, it was so much easier for me to move quickly into a wonderful new loving and respectful relationship of equals in a life partnership. Each of us is able to “hold our own” and love unconditionally.”
~ Heather, 50+
“Subject: Amazing Results from your videos
I usually don’t do this but I have become so enthusiastic due to watching your videos that I cannot help but to write.
I came across the videos few days ago and felt like there is really just a curtain which I have to reveal in order to see why I didn’t sustain any relationship which would be longer for more than four years.
I am an intelligent, attractive woman in her early thirties so I don’t have any handicap except some unknown subconscious blocks which are keeping me back.
I felt like the solution is on the reach, but at the same time-unreachable.
I wasn’t sure what to change.
I only wanted a guy who would fulfill my list consisting of 30 points But he never appeared…
Then, during watching your video sessions with different coaches…I feel like crying now because I finally reveal that metaphorical curtain and saw an empty clean white room, a part of me where I have never been before.
Thank you for your lovely passion and dedication to help people. As an HR person and consultant I am thinking to do some similar work in Czech Republic because as everywhere in the world, there are people who need help”
“I’ve just started my date coaching sessions with Suzanne and I don’t think there are words enough to describe how impressed I am with her services. She’s one of the kindest and most understanding people I’ve ever met. I feel not only that her advice is so on the mark, but she really cares about her clients. I’m looking forward to continue working with her and would absolutely recommend her agency to anyone who really wants someone they can count on.”
~ Denise, 44
New York, NY
“It’s been an amazing experience! I have spent years navigating the online dating community and came up empty. Working with Suzanne was so easy and effortless, she knew exactly what I was looking for and matched me perfectly the first time! I’ve been dating Roger for 8 months and I am going this holiday season to meet his brother and his family in Oregon…thank you!”
~ Melissa, 37
New York, NY
“I was so tired of doing online dating. The only men that I was meeting were men that I wouldn’t even consider being in a relationship with. And when I would meet a man that I would hit it off with, he would disappear into thin air after a few weeks.
I was just about to give up on dating all together, because I figured I was fine on my own. And that’s when I came across Suzanne’s site.
I decided to give it one last shot and signed up for her one-on-one coaching program. And I’m sooooooo glad I did!
After working with Suzanne, I discovered exactly why I wasn’t meeting the right men, not to mention why men were disappearing on me. I was doing EVERYTHING wrong. I did everything Suzanne told me to, and I am proud to FINALLY say, I am in long term relationship with an amazing man! James is everything I’ve always wanted in a man and a relationship.”
~ Katherine, 44
“Suzanne, I bought two of your online books.
Just want you to know, I LOVE your info. LOVE your interviews!
They’re a great length, and they HELP!
Keep producing great content… and THANK YOU!”
~ Leesa, 43
Salt Lake City, UT
“l found the Secret Tips quite illuminating and very useful. Thank you very much for your help. I am very grateful. I believe all are very logical and true. It is “On Point”, as we say in this part of the world.
Kudos to you. God will surely bless you as you are enlightening single ladies and helping them to have successful relationships.”
“I did try one of your tips today on my way to work. Well, actually three, and I was amazed at the difference. I live in a small town in Kansas, and for exercise, I sometimes walk 3.5 miles to work…I usually put my work cloths in my backpack and wear comfy clothes to walk to work in. I also put my make-up bag in my backpack so that I can put it on at work and look “fresh”.
Well, after watching the video of your dating tips with Abiola, I decided to wear a white t-shirt that fits me very well and is not over sized (bright colored clothing makes you stand out more). I also put on some make up before I left my apt…”you never know who you’re going to meet, and you will never get that first impression back.”
Then finally, I decided to try to practice being more approachable while on my walk to work.
Well, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that it worked. I met men (and they were actually all men I ran into, which was convenient while walking and met them with eye contact and a smile.
To my surprise, they said “good morning” and one even commented on the warm weather. I also looked at the drivers of on coming traffic and smiled. I had men waving at me.
I could not believe it, it made me laugh out loud. Not overly friendly waves, but acknowledged me.
These are all first. So I am really looking forward to listening to more of your podcasts and learning more.”
~ Single Gal, Kansas
I really enjoyed your e-book. I do wear lots of color and I do know for a fact that men do love the color red.
As for being more approachable, that is where I get scared. I will be trying it out more and more though and I will keep you posted.
I just went through the breakup of an agonizing/thrilling relationship. I rushed into it and boy was that a mistake. I’m learning much from Joe and you.
I really love your kind demeanor. I have heard quite a few dating “experts” but I surely don’t connect with all of them. I learned about you because of Joe Amoia, who I absolutely love. I can see why you work together. You each have such kind and sincere ways about you.
I like your style. And, it’s so nice to know that you answer your own e-mails.
Thank you for the work you are doing.”
~ Ruth, 46
“I have to be honest, if I could hug you and all the extraordinary speakers right now, I would!
Thank you for organizing such an informative and fun event; totally walked out of there a different person with a different and positive outlook on life. I got some really great dating tips.
If in the future you plan any similar events, I would love to come, perhaps even bring a friend. Once again, thank you! I’m forever grateful : )”
~ Caroline, 24
“SINGLE IN STILETTOS – It Changed My Life!
I love Single in Stilettos!
I have felt shy, quiet & awkward with men most of my life. Meeting men has not been easy for me – especially since I cannot tell whether or not someone is interested in me.
From Single in Stilettos, I came away with some great dating tips for women. I learned how to be more open & playful with men. From Marni Kinrys, I learned how to convey to men what I want & desire and then delight in letting them surprise me…..
From Tracey Steinberg, I learned how to be lighter & more relaxed being myself with men.
From Yolanda Shoshana, I learned that it is possible to move beyond the bedroom to bring passion & seduction into every dimension of our life. And, that it is possible to be sensuous & sexy at any age.
From Thomas Edwards, I learned how to read the body language of a wonderful man I’ve known 5 years (who is 22 years younger than me) who has asked me out on a date for this evening.
My Thanks to ALL of YOU for opening me up to the possibilities of being fully loving.”
~ Devorah, 58
“It was amazing to hear from all of the best dating experts in one day! We enjoyed being able to chat with them one on one and learn dating tips on how to be successful while dating in the city! And we made so many great new friends! Can’t wait for the next event.”
~ Stephanie, 25
“Great team of knowledgeable experts who gave great dating tips for women!
I learned so much from the speakers in terms of branding my own self on the dating world and about having fun on dates.
The Man Panel allowed me to notice mistakes I’ve done in the past and about moving forward with a new outlook on meeting men. It was so much fun.
Every single girl needs in on this! You are truly missing out if you are single and not getting this advice.
Thank you Suzanne Oshima, Single In Stilettos you rock!!”
~ Teresa, 30
“I really enjoyed Single in Stilettos. You had wonderful speakers that were “in the know” because they were knowledgeable and entertaining.
I recognized quite a few things that I have done/said on dates that were definitely not alluring.
After all of the great dating advice for women, hopefully I won’t need to come to the next conference. (-; Thank you.”
~ Laurie, 49
Remember I emailed you about trying out some of your tips while walking to work. Well, I still make all your dating tips that I have learned, a part of my daily routine. Things are becoming more natural….like trying to be more approachable.
Anyway, I was really wanting to share with you, another success story. I went out to have a drink with one of my girlfriends last night. Sadly to say it was the first time I had been out to have a drink in quite some time. However, that being said, I had the absolute best time. I wore a nice yellow top with kind of a peacock feather design on the top, and some cute shorts, my hair was straightened and down, and I had my make up on, of course. Not real dressy, but nice and casual.
Well, as soon as I got there I noticed a HUGE difference in how my evenings usually go. First off I got in to the bar with out being ID’d, AND I got a free wrist band. I NEVER get in free anywhere.
Then we went to the bar to get a drink, and while we were waiting my friend saw some people she knew and started visiting. The man next to me at the bar started talking to me, said something witty and introduced himself to me. Then another man on the other side of me started to talk to me. One of them bought my drink. THAT NEVER HAPPENS!!! I had my drinks bought for me ALL night. It was great.
I got tons of compliments on my hair, and one man even touch it, I couldn’t believe it. I even ended up with a phone number. So needless to say it was a good night.
Thank you so much for your tips. I am not really looking for a relationship right now, but just kind of getting comfortable in my own skin, sort to speak. But this great experience will really help boost my confidence, and “practicing” your tips will help make everything more natural. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Oh, and did I mention, that I am 34 and this is a college town, and all this happened with me being the oldest gal at the bar last night. LOL! I loved it!!!”
~ Renee, 34