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“Dear Suzanne,

Thank you for being my coach, you’ve completely changed my love life!

After years of failed relationships in my 30’s and 40’s, I was truly beginning to think that I was just destined to spend the rest of my life alone. A couple of years ago I turned 50 and my mother passed away.

That was a reality check for me, because I realized that I didn’t want to die alone (I know that sounds so morbid, but it’s the truth!).

I felt like there was no hope for me to get into a loving relationship with the right man. Almost every man dated, either wasn’t serious about having a long term relationship, or worse they all just wanted to date younger women.

I tried all the dating advice from countless experts and read dating self-help books, but nothing was working and I didn’t know why.

And then that’s when I met you. You truly listened to me and you cared. You showed me that there is hope and that it wasn’t too late for me to meet the right man and get into long term relationship, but that I just needed the personal guidance to help me through the process.

Now, I realize why all the advice from all the other experts didn’t work for me. You helped me uncover my past relationship patterns which were actually preventing me from getting into a relationship, even though I kept saying that I wanted one!

I can’t thank you enough. You completely changed my life and how I dated in a positive way. I’m so happy to share with you that I am now in the most amazing long term relationship with Devin.

He treats me like no other man has. He’s my best friend and I can talk to him for hours. When we’re with each other, I don’t even notice the time pass or other people around. He supports me through everything and is always there for me, even when bad things happen. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.

I honestly feel like the luckiest woman in the world because I never thought I would find love like this in my 50’s!

And the best part of our relationship is, Devin talks about growing old together and being there for each other until the end…and so now, I truly know I won’t be alone the rest of my life!

Thank you Suzanne, I now know I would have never met Devin, if it wasn’t for working with you.”

~ Kelsey, 52
Chicago, IL

“I would go out on dates and have had several long term relationships, but none have resulted in marriage. My friends & family couldn’t figure out why, as I they would always tell me, ‘but you’re such a catch, any man would be lucky to have you’. Of course, that really didn’t make me feel better.

I really started to feel like in my 40’s that I really was going to be alone for the rest of my life. And while I wasn’t devastated by any means (because I have a great job, am financially secure and am generally happy)…I still felt like there was something missing in my life. I knew I would be “OK” without a man, but I knew deep down, that I didn’t want to grow old alone!

I decided to join Suzanne’s coaching program and to my surprise, it completely transformed my dating life and my relationships with men. I learned so much about men and why I couldn’t keep a man.

I followed all of her advice, and I am so happy to say, that I am no longer single and I just turned 50 this year! I have finally found a man that treats me the way I knew I deserved to be treated. He is always there for me, and he talks about our future together and us getting married. Who knew I would find true love at 50??”

~ Kim, 50
Miami, FL

“I’ve just started my date coaching sessions with Suzanne and I don’t think there are words enough to describe how impressed I am with her services. She’s one of the kindest and most understanding people I’ve ever met. I feel not only that her advice is so on the mark, but she really cares about her clients. I’m looking forward to continue working with her and would absolutely recommend her agency to anyone who really wants someone they can count on.”

~ Denise, 44
New York, NY

“It’s been an amazing experience! I have spent years navigating the online dating community and came up empty. Working with Suzanne was so easy and effortless, she knew exactly what I was looking for and matched me perfectly the first time! I’ve been dating Roger for 8 months and I am going this holiday season to meet his brother and his family in Oregon…thank you!”

~ Melissa, 37
New York, NY

“I was so tired of doing online dating. The only men that I was meeting were men that I wouldn’t even consider being in a relationship with. And when I would meet a man that I would hit it off with, he would disappear into thin air after a few weeks.

I was just about to give up on dating all together, because I figured I was fine on my own. And that’s when I came across Suzanne’s site.

I decided to give it one last shot and signed up for her one-on-one coaching program. And I’m sooooooo glad I did!

After working with Suzanne, I discovered exactly why I wasn’t meeting the right men, not to mention why men were disappearing on me. I was doing EVERYTHING wrong. I did everything Suzanne told me to, and I am proud to FINALLY say, I am in long term relationship with an amazing man! James is everything I’ve always wanted in a man and a relationship.”

~ Katherine, 44

“Suzanne, I bought two of your online books.

Just want you to know, I LOVE your info. LOVE your interviews!

They’re a great length, and they HELP!

Keep producing great content… and THANK YOU!”

~ Leesa, 43
Salt Lake City, UT

“l found the Secret Tips quite illuminating and very useful. Thank you very much for your help. I am very grateful.  I believe all are very logical and true.  It is “On Point”, as we say in this part of the world.

Kudos to you.  God will surely bless you as you are enlightening single ladies and helping them to have successful relationships.”

~ Rosamond

“I did try one of your tips today on my way to work. Well, actually three, and I was amazed at the difference. I live in a small town in Kansas, and for exercise, I sometimes walk 3.5 miles to work…I usually put my work cloths in my backpack and wear comfy clothes to walk to work in. I also put my make-up bag in my backpack so that I can put it on at work and look “fresh”.

Well, after watching the video of your dating tips with Abiola, I decided to wear a white t-shirt that fits me very well and is not over sized (bright colored clothing makes you stand out more). I also put on some make up before I left my apt…”you never know who you’re going to meet, and you will never get that first impression back.”

Then finally, I decided to try to practice being more approachable while on my walk to work.

Well, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that it worked. I met men (and they were actually all men I ran into, which was convenient while walking and met them with eye contact and a smile.

To my surprise, they said “good morning” and one even commented on the warm weather. I also looked at the drivers of on coming traffic and smiled. I had men waving at me.

I could not believe it, it made me laugh out loud. Not overly friendly waves, but acknowledged me.

These are all first. So I am really looking forward to listening to more of your podcasts and learning more.”

~ Single Gal, Kansas

“Hi Suzanne,

I really enjoyed your e-book. I do wear lots of color and I do know for a fact that men do love the color red.

As for being more approachable,  that is where I get scared.  I will be trying it out more and more though and I will keep you posted.

I just went through the breakup of an agonizing/thrilling relationship.  I rushed into it and boy was that a mistake.  I’m learning much from Joe and you.

I really love your kind demeanor.  I have heard quite a few dating “experts” but I surely don’t connect with all of them.  I learned about you because of Joe Amoia, who I absolutely love.  I can see why you work together.  You each have such kind and sincere ways about you.

I like your style.  And, it’s so nice to know that you answer your own e-mails.

Thank you for the work you are doing.”

 ~ Ruth, 46

“I have to be honest, if I could hug you and all the extraordinary speakers right now, I would!

Thank you for organizing such an informative and fun event; totally walked out of there a different person with a different and positive outlook on life. I got some really great dating tips.

If in the future you plan any similar events, I would love to come, perhaps even bring a friend. Once again, thank you! I’m forever grateful : )”

~  Caroline, 24

“SINGLE IN STILETTOS – It Changed My Life!

I love Single in Stilettos!

I have felt shy, quiet & awkward with men most of my life.  Meeting men has not been easy for me – especially since I cannot tell whether or not someone is interested in me.

From Single in Stilettos, I came away with some great dating tips for women. I learned how to be more open & playful with men. From Marni Kinrys, I learned how to convey to men what I want & desire and then delight in letting them surprise me…..

From Tracey Steinberg, I learned how to be lighter & more relaxed being myself with men.

From Yolanda Shoshana, I learned that it is possible to move beyond the bedroom to bring passion & seduction into every dimension of our life.  And, that it is possible to be sensuous & sexy at any age.

From Thomas Edwards, I learned how to read the body language of a wonderful man I’ve known 5 years (who is 22 years younger than me) who has asked me out on a date for this evening.

My Thanks to ALL of YOU for opening me up to the possibilities of being fully loving.”

~ Devorah, 58

“It was amazing to hear from all of the best dating experts in one day! We enjoyed being able to chat with them one on one and learn dating tips on how to be successful while dating in the city! And we made so many great new friends! Can’t wait for the next event.”

~ Stephanie, 25

“Great team of knowledgeable experts who gave great dating tips for women!

I learned so much from the speakers in terms of branding my own self on the dating world and about having fun on dates.

The Man Panel allowed me to notice mistakes I’ve done in the past and about moving forward with a new outlook on meeting men. It was so much fun.

Every single girl needs in on this! You are truly missing out if you are single and not getting this advice.

Thank you Suzanne Oshima, Single In Stilettos you rock!!”

~ Teresa, 30

“I really enjoyed Single in Stilettos. You had wonderful speakers that were “in the know” because they were knowledgeable and entertaining.

I recognized quite a few things that I have done/said on dates that were definitely not alluring.

After all of the great dating advice for women, hopefully I won’t need to come to the next conference. (-; Thank you.”

~ Laurie, 49

“Hi Suzanne,

Remember I emailed you about trying out some of your tips while walking to work. Well, I still make all your dating tips that I have learned, a part of my daily routine. Things are becoming more natural….like trying to be more approachable.

Anyway, I was really wanting to share with you, another success story. I went out to have a drink with one of my girlfriends last night. Sadly to say it was the first time I had been out to have a drink in quite some time. However, that being said, I had the absolute best time. I wore a nice yellow top with kind of a peacock feather design on the top, and some cute shorts, my hair was straightened and down, and I had my make up on, of course. Not real dressy, but nice and casual.

Well, as soon as I got there I noticed a HUGE difference in how my evenings usually go. First off I got in to the bar with out being ID’d, AND I got a free wrist band. I NEVER get in free anywhere.

Then we went to the bar to get a drink, and while we were waiting my friend saw some people she knew and started visiting. The man next to me at the bar started talking to me, said something witty and introduced himself to me. Then another man on the other side of me started to talk to me. One of them bought my drink. THAT NEVER HAPPENS!!! I had my drinks bought for me ALL night. It was great.

I got tons of compliments on my hair, and one man even touch it, I couldn’t believe it. I even ended up with a phone number. So needless to say it was a good night.

Thank you so much for your tips. I am not really looking for a relationship right now, but just kind of getting comfortable in my own skin, sort to speak. But this great experience will really help boost my confidence, and “practicing” your tips will help make everything more natural. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Oh, and did I mention, that I am 34 and this is a college town, and all this happened with me being the oldest gal at the bar last night. LOL! I loved it!!!”

~ Renee, 34


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