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Show #79: Are You an Unavailable Woman?

Are you an unavailable woman?
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Show #79: My guest on the show is Abiola Abrams, Passionate Living Coach & Author at AbiolaTV.com.

What might be preventing you from meeting the right man?

Dating and meeting the right man isn’t easy, but it’s also not the impossible mission either.

So, if you feel like it’s completely impossible to meet the right man, then it might be time to take a look inward. As you might actually discover that you’re actually an unavailable woman. And that may be what’s preventing you from meeting the right man!

Here’s some of the ways you may be unavailable and may be blocking yourself from meeting the right man:

  • You’re not doing anything to meet the right man

Sitting on your couch night after night, wondering why you haven’t met the right man is not going make Mr. Right miraculously appear at your doorstep.

You have to get up and get out there and meet the right man.

  • You complain to your friends & family that there are no good men out there

Complaining about your love life and men will get you no where. It only puts you in a negative mind space and keeps you single.

  • You think all men are cheaters

Yes, there are some men that are cheaters, but that clearly doesn’t mean that ALL men are cheaters.

If you find that you’re only meeting cheaters, then it’s time to take a look at the yourself and why you keep choosing men who are cheaters.

  • You think that it’s impossible to meet a man because there are more women in your city than men

You only need ONE man! You don’t need 100, so stop saying that you can’t meet the right man because there are more single women in your city than single men!

  • You keep making excuses as to why you can’t meet the right man

Excuse, after excuse only makes you a victim and leaves you in the same exact place. If you really want to meet the right man, then stop making excuses and get out there!

  • You might be stuck in a past  relationship

No one ever said break ups were easy, but if you’re still yearning for your past love, it’s clearly holding you back from meeting the right man. So, it maybe time to “let go” and finally get over him and move on.

  • You might be using your work, age, weight or looks to hold you back from meeting the right man.

You’re never going to be perfect, so stop using your age, weight, looks or financial position as to why you’re not ready to meet the right man. You have to stop blocking yourself from meeting the right man.

  • You might think that men your age, just want to date younger women

Yes, of course there are some men your age that want to date younger woman, but guess what? Then they aren’t the men for you.

There are men that want to date women your age, so you just have to find them!

  • You haven’t done everything, take steps and solve it.

If you find yourself saying, “But, I’ve done EVERYTHING, and I still haven’t met the right man!”, then you may need to take a step back and see that you may need to do something different. Because trust me, you have not done everything!

  • You are not a victim, take control of your love life

When you play “victim”, all you’re doing is perpetuating the situation and keeping yourself single. It’s time to get out of your dating rut, stand up and take control of your love life, if you really want to meet the right man!

  • You may be afraid to find the love you deserve

As crazy as it sounds, even if you say you want to meet the right man and fall in love…you might be afraid and that may be what’s blocking you from meeting the right man!

  • You may have fear to get back out there

No doubt, it’s scary to get back out there and date, especially after a divorce or break up and you haven’t dated in the last 15 – 20 years.  But, you can’t let that hold you back from getting back out there.

Just take it one step at a time, and you soon  you’ll have your calendar filled with dates!

  • You may be a afraid of intimacy

If you haven’t dated in a while or been intimate with a man in awhile, then you might be afraid to get intimate which is completely understandable.

So, again it’s important to take dating and intimacy, just one step at a time.

  • You’re afraid to be vulnerable if you’ve been hurt before

If you want to fall in love and meet the right man, it requires you to be vulnerable, open, trust him, and be able to receive. If you can’t be any of those things, then you’re not going to be able to meet the right man and fall in love.

All in all, it’s important for you to remember that it is YOU who is in control of your destiny and your love life. So it’s time to get up and get out there with a positive attitude, and guess what? I’ll bet you’ll meet the right man for you, in no time flat!

If you want to know the secrets to attracting & keeping the right man, then check out our video series: The Secrets on Meet, Attract & Keep the Right Man!

 

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by Suzanne Oshima

Suzanne K. Oshima is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach & Founder at Dream Bachelor & Bachelorette. She is also the Founder of Single in Stilettos, which gives women the best dating advice & tips to help them meet, attract & keep the one. Suzanne has been seen on Bravo TV, The Today Show, Good Afternoon America, Inside Edition, BBC Radio, Glamour Magazine, Men’s Health and much more!

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