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Show #209: My guest on the show is Wendy Newman, Author of “121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating”
Be a Fantastic Date for Anyone
On this week’s show, I welcome back Wendy Newman, a dating and relationship coach and the author of 121 First Dates. Inspired by a few particularly horrendous first dates that she experienced first-hand, Wendy chronicled her experiences into a series of short stories in the form of a how-to guide to help women successfully date and find lasting love.
This week, Wendy and I discuss her first date tips on how to be a fantastic date for anyone, important relationship tricks you need to know in order to make it to that second date!
Be Familiar, As If You Already Know Him
Wendy’s first of three first date tips on how to be a fantastic date for anyone is to act as though you already know him. As you sit down, lead off the date with the questions “How are you?” or “How was your week?” By creating a sense of immediate familiarity with him, you’ll be able to gain access that you wouldn’t have had otherwise. He’ll feel like you’re genuinely interested in the day-to-day goings-on of his life, and he’ll feel more willing to open up to you and allow you to get to know him all the more. Ask open-ended questions that will allow him to answer deeply and sincerely – learn what he loves about his life and what works with the way he lives.
Create a Positive, Enthusiastic Energy
The second tip on how to be a fantastic date is to have a positive, familiar energy with him. In conjunction with the previous tip, you’ll be able to make him feel as though he’s completely able to communicate openly with you – once the date is over, he’ll remember you as a fantastic conversation starter and will keep coming back for more. Remember, put in the time and effort to get to know him on a deeper, more personal level to allow a lasting connection to take form. Don’t lose the enthusiasm that attracts men and pulls them in closer.
Give Him a Chance to Speak
Wendy’s last tip on how to be a fantastic date is to give him a moment of silence of about 30 seconds after he seems to be finished talking to give him a chance to continue. Men’s brains are wired in a completely different way from women who are eager to escape silence and have the ability to talk quickly and loudly and still understand the conversation. By giving him that moment of silence, you’ll allow him to dig deeper into the conversation and move it along in a way that feels natural to him. Don’t cut him off with a quick answer or another question – create the right balance between talking and listening.
What do you think about Wendy’s first date tips? In the comments below, leave us your thoughts and experiences!
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